Thursday, 20 March 2014

A story about love , ego and feelings

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Once there was an island where all the feelings lived together.
One day there was a storm in the sea and the island was about to drown.
Every Feeling was scared but Love made a boat to escape.
All the feelings jumped in the boat except for one feeling.
Love got down to see who it was…
It was Ego!!
Love tried & tried but Ego didnt move..
Everyone asked Love to leave Ego & come in the boat but Love was meant to Love….
It remained with Ego.
All other feelings were left alive but Love died because of Ego !!

The story of appreciation


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One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV that the youth’s academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research,
Never had a year when he did not score.
The director asked,
“Did you obtain any scholarships in school?”
The youth answered “none”.
The director asked,
” Was it your father who paid for your school fees?”
The youth answered,
“My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.
The director asked,
” Where did your mother work?”
The youth answered,
“My mother worked as clothes cleaner.
The director requested the youth to show his hands.
The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.
The director asked,
” Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?”
The youth answered,
“Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books.
Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.
The director said,
“I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother’s hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother’s hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother’s hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.
This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother’s hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother’s hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office.
The Director noticed the tears in the youth’s eyes, asked:
” Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?”
The youth answered,
” I cleaned my mother’s hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes’
The Director asked,
” please tell me your feelings.”
The youth said,
Number 1,
I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today.
Number 2,
By working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.
Number 3,
I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.
The director said,
” This is what I am looking for to be my manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company’s performance improved tremendously.
A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop “entitlement mentality”and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent’s efforts.
When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others.
For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement.
He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*
You can let your kid live in a big house, give him a Driver & Car for going around, Eat a Good Meal, learn Piano, Watch a Big Screen TV. But when you are Cutting Grass, please let them experience it. After a Meal, let them Wash their Plates and Bowls together with their Brothers and Sisters. Tell them to Travel in Public Bus, It is not because you do not have Money for Car or to Hire a Maid, but it is because you want to Love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will Grow Grey, same as the Mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done..

Article: Feed the eagles, starve the turkeys

A long, long time ago, a boss of mine at Apple, John Osborne, taught me 2 things that I swear have guided hundreds of decisions since. One was about when to fire someone and when to coach and such. And the other was on how to stop doing more (cause there will always be more) but on doing well. Like a long shadow on my life, his advice has been crucial.  So, when LinkedIN asked a few of us to share the “best advice I’ve ever received”, I wrote about one of them: “Feed the Eagles, Starve the Turkeys”. The entire post can be found here, but let me excerpt the key part:
Feed the Eagles. There are only a few things that matter. Know what they are. And place your energy into them. They aren’t always right in front of you so you need to look up and out more. Starve the Turkeys – lots of things are right in front of you … pecking around, making noise, and demanding attention. Because they are right in front of you, it’s easy to pay attention to them most and first. Ignore them. They will actually do fine without you.
(I write about how this has affected the small — as in email — and big — as in family as a priority as examples…)
Then a friend that I’ve met through Twitter (and we’ve since been fortunate to meet IRL) someone I learn from, wrote something I think is worth sharing… (edited only slightly)
Your “feed the eagles, starve the turkeys” article reminded me of an experience from my past, and the lessons I took from it, which somehow strangely apply here.
So – years ago, in my early twenties, I was on a project with more senior guy. He dropped me off at a potential real estate development site, about 25 acres of open land, in a semi-rural exurb. I had a notebook, a pen, a digital camera, and a cell phone (in the days when cell phones were bricks that didn’t even do email, just texts & phone calls). My assignment: do a full site-walk, looking for and cataloging anything that might constitute evidence of wetlands, perennial and intermittent streams, vernal pools, turtle / salamander habitat, or any sort of exotic or possibly endangered wildlife, anything that might pose a significant problem to the development of this parcel.
So I start my walk.
About an hour in, I’m waaaaay on the back end of this site, that had a mix of open grass, fallow farm plots, forest, shrubs, and high-growing weeds and tall brush. It’s hot, it’s dry, I’m sweating, there ain’t no salamanders or turtles or anything of interest. This is the boringest day in long time, and I’m not even half done. I stop on an open stretch of grass, about 30 feet wide, in between some really high brush / weeds on one side (it looked like what had once been either a corn patch, or oddly enough, a surreptitious reefer plot) and a long, deep thicket of dense undergrowth on the other. I bust into my water bottle and light up a smoke.
Then I hear this weird noise, coming from the undergrowth.
I’ve no idea what the hell it is, although I’m reasonably sure it’s some kind of woodland creature. It’s not a harsh growl or predatory sound, so I’m not worried I’m going to be carried off by coyotes or anything, so I don’t think much of it. I hear the sound again. I’m looking around, I don’t see anything. Then, I hear this utter cacophony erupt from the undergrowth – it sounded like the war cry of some kind of tribe of savages – I and I jump around to see the source. The undergrowth is shaking and twitching and then, from the thicket burst out this cavalry phalanx of charging, screaming, flapping wild turkeys. At least a dozen, probably more. And, in the words of the poet, “they were coming right at me.” Fast. And angry.
Time dilated.
My jaw dropped.
What the heck to do now?
What did I know about wild turkeys? I ran through my internal knowledge base: I knew that the 80 proof kind, with a couple ice cubes, was the beginning of a good Friday night (not germane! next fact!). I knew they traveled in groups (borne out by the evidence! not helpful! next fact!) Also, I knew that wild turkeys were ferocious in their own way, and their main form of attack was to jump about 4 or 5 feet in the air, flap their wings furiously in a semblance of flight to prolong their jump, and then claw the living daylights out of whatever happened to be in their path with these rather sizable, razor sharp claws that they have attached to them (useless trivia, suddenly useful!).Was this how it was going to end? Clawed to death by wild turkeys in some rural Connecticut nowheresville planned retail development? One moment alive and vibrant, the next, a lifeless bleeding pile of shredded former consultant?
Exactly unlike any movie hero ever, I dropped to the ground, covered my head, went fetal, and made peace with my god. In seconds, thankfully, the raging turkey torrent passed me by, gobbling and clucking and flapping and squawking and then…they were gone. Into the high weeds. Silence. No evidence that it ever happened.
It was a Hunter S. Thompson moment – lying on the ground, wet from spilled water bottle, half a cigarette in my mouth, saying…jesus, did that *really* just happen?!
Needless to say, the rest of that day (week, and month) were uneventful by comparison, and not worthy of recounting. But I did spend a lot of time thinking about the ramifications of this experience, and what it might teach me about the universe and my place in it.
Some key lessons I drew from this affair, which I think actually apply nicely to the turkeys in your context:
  1. The turkeys will come out of nowhere, when you least expect them
  2. Turkeys travel in large packs, and when in the pack, they are angry, and vicious, and know no fear or remorse
  3. The turkeys tend to follow a very big turkey – the largest, usually, probably also the meanest
  4. One person alone is no match for a pack of turkeys in full-on aggro-mode
  5. Being in between a pack of aggro wild turkeys and where they want to go is not a good place to be
  6. One would be wise to learn to detect “turkey-sign” and avoid areas where you see it – the best defense is to not be where they are
  7. Do not meddle in the affairs of turkeys
  8. When caught in a turkey-charge, the best thing to do may very well be to put your head down and hope the turkeys pass you by
  9. Turkeys will do what they will do. You will not stop them from being turkeys or convince them of anything they don’t want to be convinced of
  10. Watching for eagles is important, but it’s always a good idea to keep a weather-eye on the underbrush, too.
That’s from Seth Cargiuolo, a digital strategist, and clearly someone whose faced his set of turkeys in his life. (I hope it made you laugh, as it did me.)
 And my reason for writing all this today:You probably have lots of people in your life, email you get, and things to do… you could easily ignore the “small” as you focus on the “big”. I wrote the Turkeys/Eagles post clearly saying somethings are really strategic and you have to be willing to prioritize or you’d drive yourself crazy… All that is true. And, yet, the truth is actually more balanced. Sometimes, a little distraction is also needed. A little levity, and a moment of just sharing stories. Sometimes people ask why I do social stuff, like being active on mediums like Twitter, LinkedIn or G+, and I find the reason is really simple: it helps me connect with people. Connection. Relationships. Trust. These are the things that matter. And ultimately, isn’t that what this little rodeo is all about anyways?

Always Find Best Qualities in Others…

When John D Rockefeller ran the Standard Oil Company one of his senior executives made a mistake that cost over $2 million.

The other executives thought Rockefeller would come down heavy on him and probably fire him.  But he didn’t.  Before he called the man in,
he sat down, took a notepad and wrote across the top of it: ‘Points in favour of this man’.  Then he listed the man’s strengths, including how he’d once helped the company make the right decision and earn them millions of dollars.

One of the senior executives who witnessed it later said, ‘Whenever I am tempted to rip into someone, I force myself to sit down and compile a list of the good qualities they have.  By the time I have finished, I have the right perspective.  And best of all, my anger is under control.  I can’t tell you how many times this habit has prevented me from committing one of life’s costliest mistakes-losing my temper.  I recommend it to anyone who must deal with people.
So before you jump to conclusions about someone, stop and ask God for wisdom, then sit down and make a list of their best qualities.  If you do you may come to a different conclusion.  One thing is for sure, you’ll approach them with the right attitude and you won’t say things you’ll later regret.

What We See When Watching Others….

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A Young Couple Moves Into A New Neighborhood

 The Next Morning While They Are Eating Breakfast, the Young Women Sees Her Neighbor Hanging The Wash Outside. 

“The Laundry Is Not Very Clean” She Said

 “She Doesn’t Know How To Wash Correctly, perhaps She Needs Better Laundry Soaps”

 Her Husband Looked On But Remained Silent. Every time Her Neighbor Would Hang Her Wash To Dry, the Young Women Would Make The Same Comments.

 About One Month Later,

The Women Was Surprised To See A Nice Clean
Wash On The Line And Said To Her Husband :

 “Look, She Has Learned How To Wash Correctly. I Wonder Who Taught Her This”

 The Husband Said :

 I Got Up Early This Morning And Cleaned Our Windows.”

 And So it is With Life.

 What We See When Watching Others Depends

 On The Purity Of The Window Through Which We Look!!!

Stop being a glass. Become a lake….

The old Master instructed the unhappy young lady to put a handful of salt in a glass of water and then to drink it. “How does it taste?” the Master asked. “Very bad” Said the lady.
The Master then asked the young lady to take another handful of salt and put it in the lake. The two walked in silence to the nearby lake and when the apprentice swirled his handful of salt into the lake, the old man said, “Now drink from the lake.”
As the water dripped down the young lady’s chin, the Master asked, “How does it taste?” “Good!” remarked the apprentice. “Do you taste the salt?” asked the Master. “No,” said the young lady.
The Master said, “The pain of life is pure salt; no more, no less. The amount of pain in life remains the same, exactly the same. But the amount we taste the ‘pain’ depends on the container we put it into. So when you are in pain, the only thing you can do is to enlarge your sense of things….. Stop being a glass. Become a lake!”

Life is a journey not a guided tour....

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When I was a young boy, my father had one of the first telephones in
our neighborhood …. I remember the polished, old case fastened to
the wall. The shiny receiver hung on the side of the box. I was too
little to reach the telephone, but used to listen with fascination
when my mother talked to it.
Then I discovered that somewhere inside the wonderful device lived an
amazing person. Her name was “Information Please” and there was
nothing she did not know. Information Please could supply anyone’s
number and the correct time.
My personal experience with the genie-in-a-bottle came one day while
my mother was visiting a neighbor. Amusing myself at the tool bench
in the basement, I whacked my finger with a hammer, the pain was
terrible, but there seemed no point in crying because there was no one
home to give sympathy.
I walked around the house sucking my throbbing finger, finally
arriving at the stairway. The telephone! Quickly, I ran for the
footstool in the parlor and dragged it to the landing. Climbing up, I
unhooked the receiver in the parlor and held it to my ear.
“Information, please” I said into the mouthpiece just above my head.
A click or two and a small clear voice spoke into my ear.
“Information.”
“I hurt my finger…” I wailed into the phone, the tears came readily
enough now that I had an audience.
“Isn’t your mother home?” came the question.
“Nobody’s home but me,” I blubbered.
“Are you bleeding?” the voice asked.
“No,” I replied. “I hit my finger with the hammer and it hurts.”
“Can you open the icebox?” she asked.
I said I could.
“Then chip off a little bit of ice and hold it to your finger,” said
the voice…
After that, I called “Information Please” for everything.. I asked her
for help with my geography, and she told me where Philadelphia was.
She helped me with my math.
She told me my pet chipmunk that I had caught in the park just the day
before, would eat fruit and nuts..
Then, there was the time Petey, our pet canary, died.. I called, “
Information Please,” and told her the sad story. She listened, and
then said things grown-ups say to soothe a child. But I was not
consoled. I asked her, “Why is it that birds should sing so
beautifully and bring joy to all families, only to end up as a heap of
feathers on the bottom of a cage?”
She must have sensed my deep concern, for she said quietly, ” Wayne ,
always remember that there are other worlds to sing in.”
Somehow I felt better.
Another day I was on the telephone, “Information Please.”
“Information,” said in the now familiar voice. “How do I spell fix?”
I asked.
All this took place in a small town in the Pacific Northwest . When I
was nine years old, we moved across the country to Boston . I missed
my friend very much.
“Information Please” belonged in that old wooden box back home and I
somehow never thought of trying the shiny new phone that sat on the
table in the hall. As I grew into my teens, the memories of those
childhood conversations never really left me.
Often, in moments of doubt and perplexity I would recall the serene
sense of security I had then. I appreciated now how patient,
understanding, and kind she was to have spent her time on a little
boy.
A few years later, on my way west to college, my plane put down in
Seattle … I had about a half-hour or so between planes. I spent 15
minutes or so on the phone with my sister, who lived there now. Then
without thinking what I was doing, I dialed my hometown operator and
said, “Information Please.”
Miraculously, I heard the small, clear voice I knew so well.
“Information.”
I hadn’t planned this, but I heard myself saying, “Could you please
tell me how to spell fix?”
There was a long pause. Then came the soft spoken answer, “I guess
your finger must have healed by now.”
I laughed, “So it’s really you,” I said. “I wonder if you have any
idea how much you meant to me during that time?”
I wonder,” she said, “if you know how much your calls meant to me.
I never had any children and I used to look forward to your calls.”
I told her how often I had thought of her over the years and I asked
if I could call her again when I came back to visit my sister.
“Please do”, she said. “Just ask for Sally.”
Three months later I was back in Seattle .. A different voice answered,
“Information.”
I asked for Sally.
“Are you a friend?” she said.
“Yes, a very old friend,” I answered.
“I’m sorry to have to tell you this,”She said. “Sally had been working
part time the last few years because she was sick. She died five weeks
ago.”
Before I could hang up, she said, “Wait a minute, did you say your name was
Wayne ?”
“Yes.” I answered.
“Well, Sally left a message for you. She wrote it down in case you called.
Let me read it to you.”
The note said, “Tell him there are other worlds to sing in.
He’ll know what I mean.”
I thanked her and hung up. I knew what Sally meant.
Never underestimate the impression you may make on others..
Whose life have you touched today?
Why not pass this on? I just did…..
Lifting you on eagle’s wings.
May you find the joy and peace you long for.
Life is a journey… NOT a guided tour.